Thursday, September 18, 2008

Focus on the Positive

I realize there are people who live not too far from me that are seriously suffering including my own sister who lost a great portion of her roof, my school building that lost a great deal of the roof, and many people who have completely lost their homes. This is in no way meant to downplay that. For right now, I want to focus on something positive.

Hurricane Ike brought my family together like nothing else could do.

We were ecstatic to find that the electricity came on about two minutes before we (my husband, my two step-daughters and I) pulled into our driveway Sunday evening after a two day stay in Corpus Christi. I was even more ecstatic that my twins were there, having just arrived with their dad. It was strange not being with them during this emergency. We were also especially pleased that we had very little damage to our home, mainly just the blown-down fence and a few pieces of siding. We realize how fortunate we are. The tap water is unsafe for now, but we stocked up on bottled water and non-perishable food.

We began to unpack, pausing to chat with neighbors who were out in their yards cleaning up fallen limbs. We had dinner and settled in. The satellite was working, so we could watch TV, although the Internet was down.

Less than three hours later, we were plunged into darkness. No electricity! Out came the flashlights and the candles, with many stipulations being placed on the use of candles. A friend of ours made it through the hurricane only to have her home burn down due to carelessness of the relatives staying with her and their use of candles. It’s a long story, and a very scary one.

With guidelines in place, we gathered in the living room with a couple of candles lit and quickly became bored. Instead of suffering and lamenting our poor luck (as if we were truly suffering), we broke out the family games! We played a drawing game my oldest step-daughter made up (below is a picture 2 of our daughters made up, albeit strange). We played Uno, black jack, Scrabble, and we even colored pictures. It was great fun! Instead of all us doing separate things, we were together. Under normal circumstances, this would never happen.

A cool front came through, dropping the temp into the 70’s, so we opened the windows and fell asleep to a slight breeze. The next day was spent mostly cleaning up more debris in the yard and talking with neighbors, everyone helping each other. We even planned a cook-out. The electricity came on about 2:00 PM, but we carried through with our cook-out plans.

My family and two others got together and grilled chicken, steaks, and corn-on-the-cob in the neighbor’s driveway, and we all donated potatoes and vegetables. We enjoyed the cool weather outside, drank some adult beverages including homemade wine, had a wonderful dinner, and simply enjoyed talking with each other. This also doesn’t happen often under normal circumstances.

A disaster can bring families and communities together like nothing else I know, and while I wouldn’t wish for a hurricane or any other type of disaster to happen to anyone, once it does, making the best of it makes all the difference.
I still have two giveaways going on right now.


  1. You are so right about this - a disaster can truly bring people together. And we all need each other right now!

  2. What a positive outlook...despite the didn't let it get you down. Thanks for reminding me that family is important...especially when it feels like everything else is taken still have each other.

  3. Its great that you all were there for each other. Family will always be there, its like the saying We start and end with family.

    I am glad that you didn't suffer any major damage.

  4. Finding the good in the bad...that's wonderful!

  5. While I wouldn't wish this experience on anyone, I am so glad that ya'll had some great family time. You are so right, it's important to make the best of it all.

  6. I am glad to hear that your family pulled together and you were all there for each other, that is terrific. I know what you mean, we were just talking about that. My family is spread out all across the USA and we don't get together or chat like we should and my DH and I were talking today that it's a shame that someone has to getting deathly sick (like when my Dad was diagonised with Cancer all the family rushed here to be with him) or sadly a funeral. I can relate, we don't want anyone to get sick or to die but it's nice when the family pulls through and everyone is together. It's hard to explain without someone taking it wrong.

  7. What beautiful post, with happy tears! I can feel the love that binds you all together! What a wonderful silver lining!

    Hugs Giggles

  8. this is such a beautiful post Diane, It reminded me of the saying..
    when one door closes a window opens.
    From something so awful, that you and your family and your community were drawn closer. That is truly a blessing. Not at all as threatening, but
    We had a blackout a few summers ago, and playing board games by candlelight made me feel so bonded with my tribe! I remember wishing for another blackout!

  9. so true how unluckiness can bring who suffer it together.
    and I believe it become a way to cheer up.


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