Tuesday, June 28, 2016

Random Tuesday and Coffee Chat

I'm linking up with Stacy for some randomness.  Join us!

So, I am the mother of 20-year-old twins now!   I don't have teenagers anymore, and that just doesn't seem possible, but I couldn't be any prouder of them.

We didn't have a big celebration.  Twenty is an odd age.  At sixteen you can drive. Seventeen is no big deal, but you're about to have an awesome senior year of high school.  At eighteen you can vote or serve in the armed forces or do other "not fun" grown-up things.  Nineteen and twenty?  Nothing special.  It's not until you're 21 that something exciting happens!  You all know what I'm talking about, don't you?  You can finally rent a car!  Hahahaha!  What?  It's true!  What were you expecting me to say?

So...I was in Las Vegas a week or so ago.  The Plexus people were having a convention, and many of them were staying in our hotel.  I thought Plexus was supposed to help you be healthy and stay slim, but almost every person I saw, and there were many, was overweight and out of shape.  I'm not judging them for this.  We just thought it was ironic.

Another event that started the day we left (thank goodness) was edc week. edc (all lower case) stands for electric daisy carnival.  On our last night there, many of the 135,000 party-goers began to arrive.  Lots and lots of young people.  There were events at different Vegas venues throughout the week and the main event was held at the raceway about 40 miles from Vegas.  I met a very nice kid from California who explained what edc was.  They call it a rave.  It's also a carnival with rides and attractions, various stages for performers, and lots of dancing and electronic music.  Sadly, they had 408 medical calls one night which included the death of a 24 year old man.
Look at that sea of people!
What I noticed most about these young people is that the harder they try to be different, nonconformists, the more they become comformists.  Tight dresses, skirts that barely cover the butt, belly shirts, skinny jeans and chains on guys, gauges in their ears, purple (or blue or pink) hair, lots of tattoos, particularly the females with very large tattoos on their thighs.  I wonder if the middle aged people during our youth found it difficult to understand our culture when we were in our 20's.

And now it's time for Coffee Chat with Rory Bore

This week she asks...
What journey do you most want to take?   
It can be a geographical place, an emotional or spiritual quest, or even a creative pursuit. 

A journey.  That sounds wonderful!  The word journey evokes much different ideas for me than simply vacation.  I feel like people who are on journeys are there to discover something, oftentimes about themselves.

There are dozens of websites out there to guide one through a spiritual journey.  This interests me because I believe that people must continue to grow and evolve in their spiritual lives.    There are attributes I would like to develop that will deepen my faith.

In the meantime, a journey I would like to take is to travel in Europe.  I would love to see the places my daughter saw in her 4 months of studying abroad.  She saw Big Ben, the Eiffel Tower, the real Mona Lisa, and so much more!  Maybe when I retire.  She visited 17 cities in 9 different countries, but the ones I would most like to visit include England, France, and Italy. My husband has promised me a trip, but it probably won't happen for a while yet.  I believe it's a worthy goal!

That's it for now!

Monday, June 27, 2016

How can they be 20?

June 26 - my kids turned 20!  Yes, I said kids, plural.  I was lucky to give birth to two children only 8 minutes apart, the old-fashioned way.

It wasn't so easy getting and staying pregnant for me.  I had an ectopic pregnancy that was taken care of surgically and two miscarriages before I found the wonderful endocrinologist who discovered a tumor blocking a Fallopian tube and my body's inability to produce enough Progesterone to sustain a pregnancy.

With those issues solved, I had other issues during my pregnancy such as bleeding (for weeks), morning sickness, but not just in the mornings, and preeclampsia with the threat of seizures and kidney failure on the horizon.

I spent the first 6 weeks and the last 2 weeks on bed rest, the last 2 actually in the hospital.  My twins were born 7 weeks early with a combined weight of 7 1/2 pounds, breathing on their own, tiny, but healthy!

They are the lights of my life!  Time goes so fast!  So, new moms and moms of younger kids, don't ever let an opportunity to spend time with your kids go by, say I love you every chance you get, and take lots of pictures!  Happy birthday, my sweethearts!

Sunday, June 19, 2016

I Don't "Do" Father's Day Anymore

Ten and a half years ago, at the age of 69, my father passed away.  He had not been ill.  In fact, the morning of his last day was spent in voluntary first aid  training.  There were no warning signs.  He died in an instant, and I wasn't there.  My mother was home, but she had recently had knee surgery, so she couldn't get him off the floor.  It wouldn't have helped anyway.  For the next day or two, they kept his heart pumping, and his lungs functioning with machines, but there was no brain activity.  I held his hand while they unplugged the machines.

I would give almost anything to have him back.  My mother says I never really processed my grief, and she's probably right.  It is too painful to actually experience.  In my head, I accept it but in my heart, I'm still in denial.  It just hurts too much.  We had no idea 2003 would be his last Christmas.

If I spoke to him now, his first question would definitely be, "How are the babies?"  That's what he called my twins, even when they weren't babies anymore.  But they were only 8 when he died, and that makes me the saddest of all. They don't even remember much about him which breaks my heart.  He was a wonderful grandfather. They had so much fun together!  He and my son baked a cake together for the boy scout banquet (Hawaiin theme).
Thing weren't supposed to happen this way.  His dad lived to age 98 and his mom was 88.  He came from strong stock.  According to the medical experts, it is possible for someone to survive his condition, Subarachnoid Hemorrhage.
"When a brain aneurysm ruptures, it causes bleeding into the compartment surrounding the brain, the subarachnoid space and is therefore also known as a subarachnoid hemorrhage (SAH)."
If caught early, it can often be treated.  How would you catch it if your only symptom is a headache? And since it is often treatable, why did my father die from it?  Is it because it took so long to get help?  I don't have answers.

I miss him so much.  He is still my hero.

I can still wish my husband a happy father's day, but I just can't celebrate.  My children's dad and I are divorced, and my husband and I don't have kids together.  It's a difficult day for me, just like his birthday and the day he died.

Happy Father's Day, Daddy!

Monday, June 13, 2016

So Random

Link your random post with Stacy.

I have had the weirdest dreams lately.  Two nights ago, I dreamed I was at my childhood home.  My dad, mom, and grandmother were there.  I sat by my dad, and we were having good conversation.  Then I was talking to my mom, and I felt so relieved that we were talking to my dad, that they could see him, too, that he was alive.  I asked, "So you can see him, too?"  And she said she couldn't.  It was all my imagination!  I cried and cried.  I think this dream stems from my inability to accept my father's death.  I mean, I know he passed away over 10 years ago, but I never went through all of the stages of grief.  I am still in denial in my heart. I made it through them in my head, but my heart just cannot accept it.

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On a completely different note, I was drying my hair the other day and I bent over to dry underneath, and I glanced in the floor length mirror and was appalled!  A woman of 50 should never look at herself upside down in a mirror.  Things look hideous from that angle.

By the time you read this, I'll be on my one and only vacation this summer.  Well, I think it's my only vacation.  Who knows?  But, I'm about to board a plane for Las Vegas.  My husband is already there at a convention for work, so the hotel is covered.  The flight was covered with "miles."  That's my kind of vacation!

Today's Coffee Chat topic is interesting.  Our hostess asks...
What would you do differently, if you knew no one would judge you?

That's a tough one!  I honestly have no regrets.  Of course, I've made mistakes in my life, but I learned from them.  They served a purpose.  I am where I am supposed to be, doing what I'm supposed to be doing.  Maybe I would have been more independent instead of trying to fit in.  Maybe I would not have been so anxious to find love.  Perhaps I would have kept my mouth shut when I didn't, or maybe I would have spoken up when I kept quiet. But really, I believe everything happens for a reason, so even if I could do something differently, I doubt that I would.

Have a great week!

Wednesday, June 08, 2016

Celebrating June

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June is a great month!
My twins were born in June.
They'll be 20 in a few weeks!  Where did the time go?
Also, school gets out in June, and I need a couple of months off!

Fun Facts

1,  June is the sixth month of the Gregorian calendar, but it was the fourth month of the Roman calendar.  (My daughter took this photo in Rome on St. Patrick's Day.)

2.  It is believed to be named for the Roman goddess Juno, wife of Jupiter.

3.  June's birthstones include pearl, moonstone, and Alexandrite.
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4.  These birthstones represent health and longevity.

5.  June's flowers are the honeysuckle and the rose.

6.  June's astrological signs include Gemini (through June 20) and Cancer (June 21 and beyond).

7.  In 1949, President Truman signed a congressional order making June 14 National Flag Day.

8.  Father's Day began in 1966 and in 1972 became a permanent holiday.  It is always observed on the second Sunday of June.  It's hard to believe my father has been gone 11 1/2 years.  I miss him so much!

9.  Father's Day is the third Sunday of the month in dozens of countries such as China, Afghanistan, India, South Africa, and many more.

10. Juneteenth, Emancipation Day, is June 19.  It is a state holiday in Texas.  This is the day that Texans received the news that the slaves were freed.

11. The summer solstice takes place on June 20 or June 21.  This marks the beginning of summer in the Northern Hemisphere where we have the longest hours of sunshine.

12. This year's summer solstice is June 20.

13. The word June is a proper noun and should always be capitalized.  (As an English teacher, I had to throw in my grammar lesson!)

Link up with Thursday Thirteen for some fun!


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