Does you heart ache when your kids' plans don't work out or when a friend of theirs hurts their feelings?
Today, my kids came home from school. Both of them had made concert band while most of their friends made honor band. One of their friends even made symphonic band, which is the best players, mostly 8th graders, and this girl is only going to be a 7th grader next year. She also never practices. She must have natural talent.
My son doesn't practice as much as he should. He was disappointed he didn't make honor band, but probably not all that surprised. He was sad, but he got over it - or appeared to get over it.
My sensitive daughter, on the other hand, cried and cried. It makes my heart hurt. There isn't anything I can do to ease her sadness. She even sent me an email telling me she was so depressed. And she told me face-to-face amidst sniffles and tears that she felt like the band directors were basically telling her she's terrible. And she's not. She puts her whole heart into it (her words). And she practices. And her "dream" of being a clarinet teacher is gone. And another girl told her she didn't want [my daughter] to make honor band, and that was just plain mean.
When I was in high school, I tried out for drill team officer and didn't make it - twice. I remember how hopeless and useless I felt. She is going through that right now, and my heart just aches for her.