Monday, May 08, 2017

A Little Random and Coffee Chat

I'm linking up with Stacy.

I'm gonna rant for a minute.  13 Reasons Why.  Have you seen it?  It's a Netflix series based on a book by Jay Asher.  Hannah Baker commits suicide, but before she does, she records messages for the people who have hurt her detailing the 13 reasons why she ends her life.

I don't know about you, but this series makes me mad.  First of all, I've got middle school students who've seen it, and it would definitely be rated R for language, drug use, and sexual situations. How do parents allow (or not know that) their children are seeing this?  The last "rape" scene (not the only one) and the suicide were particularly graphic.

Another thing some students are saying to people who make them mad or don't give them their way is, "You're my first reason."  They don't realize that suicide is not a joke!

Third, no one should use Hannah Baker as a barometer of how much humiliation is too much.  By her standards, I was probably made fun of or embarrassed so much that I should have committed suicide.  Frankly. I didn't see one sensible reason for her to commit suicide.  I realize that it's to point out that we should be kinder to each other, but I think they went about it the wrong way.

Her problems were not that horrible, not enough to want to kill herself.  She magnified the issues, which led to more negative thinking, and she dug herself in a hole.  I just don't feel like her reasons were really reasons.  Does anyone agree with me?

And one more thing... since when do high schools have students with multiple tattoos and body piercings?  Not in my school district in South Texas!  And students saying the F word in front of teachers.  Not so much.  Seemed really unrealistic to me.

I get that it is supposed to bring suicide awareness to the table as a topic worth talking about, and it is, but some girls could think they have it way worse than Hannah and kills themselves as a result.

Rant over.

Time for Coffee Chat

Our hostess says...
It's my birthday and Mother's Day soon... 
what should I do?

My suggestion is going to a

for some alone time.  Get a facial, a massage, a mani-pedi.
Take a book to read.  No phone.  Just a silk robe, chilled wine, chocolate dipped strawberries, and relaxation.  How does that sound?

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  1. Forgetfulone,

    I have not seen the Netflix series "13 Reasons". The topic really doesn't grab me. Based on your description it sounds like Hollyweird is pushing the envelope on the topic. I see stuff all the time in these series where kids are not appropriately dressed, drink too much, drug used, potty mouth language, ....and I'm thinking this can't be how kids really act in real life. Sure, I'm out of touch because I've been out of high school for 37 years and my kids were homeschooled.

    It's true kids (and adults) use foul language without any forethought. It's hard to imagine kids using bad language in the presence of a teacher or parent but maybe there is a certain truth in that respect because people's attitudes are different and many don't place a lot of importance on sounding respectful. The "F-word" replaces the defiant "forget that" (that's a very tame comparison).

    Sex is another issue that has gotten way out of hand. I was taught to NOT have sex until I got married and I did the same with our kids but judging how rapid our society morals have declined then I know it's far worse now than when I was younger. People today treat sex way too casually more like a hand shake than something intimate and precious.

    Programs like "13 Reasons" want you to believe they are bringing awareness to the problem of teen suicide but maybe it's doing just the opposite with intention to further empower socially ill-behaving kids by promoting bullying, teen drinking & drug use, premature sexually, etc. In short, do all they can to cause further rebellion in our youth to destroy them from the inside out. The way to control a nation is to do so through a weak minded people.

    Thanks for sharing your review and for allowing me to share my thoughts. Have an excellent random fun filled day!

    ~Curious as a Cathy
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  2. There's a difference between opening up a topic and sensationalizing, and i don't know that Hollywood knows the difference.

    A spa sounds perfect!

  3. I absolutely LOVE the way you think!! A spa day would be perfect. And I am actually due one because Left Brain tried over March Break, but they were fully booked at the one I wanted, so it didn't work out. And my toes definitely need some colour for Spring! (assuming our Spring will arrive.)

    The think I don't like about that show is it does not seem to offer and alternate solutions, coping mechanisms, or organizations that can help teens in these emotional crises. As Messymimi stated - it just seems to sensationalize the whole thing. And my hubby has said there actually has been a rash of suicide attempts this past month. So.. it doesn't appear to be helping at all! Such a shame, treating an important topic in this manner.

  4. I absolutely agree with you about the sensationalism of suicide. Young people are so easily drawn in to believing this is a viable option, and shows like this support that theory, no matter what they claim as intent.

    I love your spa suggestion for Les, a perfect way to spend a day of luxury, and if no one gives it to you, give it to yourself, you deserve it!


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